Do not pray for easy lives; pray to be stronger people! Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers; pray for powers equal to your tasks. Then the doing of your work shall be no miracle, but you shall be a miracle. Every day you shall wonder at yourself, at the richness of life which has come to you by the grace of God. Phillips Brooks

Thursday, July 9, 2009

The Best Birthday Ever



Yesterday was my 45th birthday. Honestly I almost forgot about it and had planned to meet my friend, T, for sushi until Mark informed me that my family required my presence on that particular evening. I rescheduled the sushi date and tried hard not to listen to the flurry of planning that was happening in whispers in various locations throughout my home and workplace. All very sweet and flattering.

The day began with a leisurely morning and a precious, handwritten card from Martina. Late morning had Travis, Martina and I driving to the shipyard for a little while and then lunching with Mark and the other kids...and my father, sister, cousin and step-mom at Frankie's Place. We were sitting at 3 different booths but that didn't matter. It was great seeing everyone. BUT just after ordering my vision began closing in and I had to stumble outside and lean against the wall and breathe some fresh air. My vision got to where it was about like looking through an oil funnel when Mark came out and fetched me some Excedrin Migraine. Maybe it helped. I haven't had a migraine in a while and usually I brew up a pot of lemon balm tea and lay down. Didn't have that option this time. The headaches are generally due to stress, hormones or dehydration and to be honest, all three were in play yesterday. Which sucked. But I put my head on Mark's shoulder until our food came, then I ate lunch and went to Randall's house and put my feet up on his remarkably soft couch until I could see properly.

All this time Martina, love bunny extraordinaire was bouncing around trying her best to make it a perfect and lovely birthday. How could it not be with all the attention? So we went to the pool and I watched her swim with her cousin R, for about an hour. At the pool I had a nice visit with R's dad, Jeff who loaded an unfinished corn hole set into the back of my van! AWESOME. He didn't know it was my birthday, I think he actually made them for Mark which was sweet. I'm excited to finish them and play.

Mark came home with a bag of blue crabs, took them out back and 'popped the tops'. My brother and sister-in-law called. Travis got the pot set up for steaming the crabs. Around 6 p.m. Aleia came in the back door. She took the night off work to come hang out. She brought charcoal, a card and roses. A short time later Randall, Elizabeth and Missy came in another door bearing steaks, rosemary-garlic roasted potatoes and peach cobbler with vanilla ice cream. And birthday cards. Travis had already made salad and some salsa-cheese dip. Mark and the kids cooked, we all hung out and chatted. The younger kids played Rock Band, like always, one of the sounds of happiness in my life.

L-R: Mark, Missy, Randall, Travis, Aleia, Martina, Elizabeth
By 9 p.m. the kids had all gone back to their respective homes and I was tucking Martina in to the first chapter of On the Banks of Plum Creek.

It was about as perfect a day as happens in this life. Oh! My step-mom sent a gift and a card with Elizabeth. For me, though, the best gift of all is having my whole family together for a while. My cup runneth over.

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Crossroads

On the day of my 45th birthday

this poem was published in the

Sanctuary at the Women's

Colony. I love it and thank

the author, Joyce Sutphen,

for writing this poem honoring

the process of living a life

beyond youth.

Crossroads


The second half of my life will be black
to the white rind of the old and fading moon.
The second half of my life will be water
over the cracked floor of these desert years.
I will land on my feet this time,
knowing at least two languages and who
my friends are. I will dress for the
occasion and my hair shall be
whatever color I please.
Everyone will go on celebrating the old
birthday, counting the years as usual,
but I will count myself new from this
inception, this imprint of my own desire.

The second half of my life will be swift,
past leaning fenceposts, a gravel shoulder,
asphalt tickets, the beckon of open road.
The second half of my life will be wide-eyed,
fingers sifting through fine sands,
arms loose at my sides, wandering feet.
There will be new dreams every night,
and the drapes will never be closed.
I will toss my string of keys in into a deep
well and old letters into the grate.

The second half of my life will be ice
breaking up on the river, rain
soaking the fields, a hand
held out, a fire,
and smoke going
upward, always up.


~Joyce Sutphen
Straight Out Of View, New Rivers Press

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MT Bar's Theology of Food

I believe that we should be reasonable in what we expect of ourselves. Eating is not a black and white issue, it is about eating foods that we enjoy and which nourish us and our families. I used to love to cook. I don't love it so much any more and I am always looking for things to feed my family that are nutrient dense, flavor filled and easy. The simplest things I've found come wrapped in apple skins or orange peels. For things that we enjoy and which require a bit more prep than a rinse or a peeling, I will share my recipes--created here and found elsewhere--for good food.
Theology:
>Do your best and forgive yourself for not being perfect. Eating, feeding your family is SO not about perfection. It's about doing the best you can most of the time and being happy that you're eating, even if it's Taco Bell, the times you just don't have the oomph! to prep a great meal.
>I believe in limiting fat but do not eat low or non-fat foods.
>If I want something sweet, I'll try fruit or hot tea with honey but if nothing will work but ice cream or a Milky Way bar. I eat that. Not a gallon of ice cream but a small cup. Not a King Sized bar, a tiny one.
>I try to purchase chemical free foods.
>I have an issue with the word organic now that it's government controlled...but I do still purchase organic food.
>I try to source my foods locally. I buy beef from a local cattle farmer. The veggie stand down the road gets a good portion of their summer income stream from my family.
>I grow food at home. We have laying hens and a garden. We have lambs. My husband hunts. We do what we can.
>I strongly believe that eating food in a form that is as close as possible to the way it grew from the earth is the best way to nourish our bodies.
>I believe that sometimes the most nourishing way sometimes just has to make room for experimentation, flavor and fun.
If you're anywhere near on the same page, you may enjoy some of the recipes I have to share.